More than Just Reproduction

There are many aspects that make a relationship successful, whether it is from a romantic point of view or even a friendship. While some believe that interaction and the idea of bonds between people are nothing more than chemical reactions or the mere fact that as humans we are supposed to find “the one” and reproduce, others know there are many more factors that make a relationship successful. Even though some professionals will continue to compare human unions to those of animals and scientific theories, others are convinced that it takes much more than science in order to create a lasting bond. No matter what statistics or professionals say in the end, each relationship is unique with its own ups and downs as well as what really goes on behind the scenes in order to keep the love alive.

Not every aspect of life needs to be broken down into the overall goal of mankind: reproduction. In Helen Fisher’s “After All, Maybe it’s…Biology” she constantly makes connections between modern dating and previous civilization offerings in exchange for mating (303). While there is clearly evidence that behavior stays similar throughout history, not all actions and emotions can be broken down into simply sex and child-bearing. This particular author also completely drags love at first sight through the mud by reducing a romantic act into nothing more than something squirrels do in order to procreate (Fisher 305). For most people finding a lasting, loving relationship is much more important than simply having children, although it usually is a part of marriage. In today’s world finding a suitable mate over a short period of time and attempting to procreate is not on anybody’s list of goals to accomplish.

Chemistry is an important part of any relationship. A romantic union will rarely be successful and happy if those within the relationship are not attracted to one another. While the aspect of chemistry and personal attraction cannot be denied, it typically is not the only factor within a man and woman’s bond together. Trust, items in common, communication, and the ability to grow as a couple are just a few of the traits most look for and strive to achieve in their relationships and marriages everyday. As mentioned above, each connection is unique, using individual aspects of love, attraction, and communication in order to make it successful. Something as complex and intense as love and lasting relationships should never be reduced to simply chemistry or biology. Even though the author believes scientifically love fades after only a few years, hopeless romantics will prevail and keep the multi-layered aspects of true love and relationships alive.